We are now in a monogamous relationship. Isn’t it okay to assume that any cold sores we might have are only caused by HSV 1 and thus are unlikely to cause genital herpes through oral sex because of our existing immunity? Isn’t also ok therefore not to be OVERLY concerned about non-obvious cold sore outbreaks (that may in reality just be blind pimples) and viral shedding as an obstacle to unprotected oral sex? Or am I falling into the trap of thinking “My partner and I are not promiscuous and therefore it won’t happen to us?”
Everything I have read says be careful because HSV 1 can give you genital herpes through oral sex; but given the fact that the vast majority of people already have HSV 1 (of the face) and have built up an immunity is this really such a great concern in a monogamous stable relationship?